Since all three of us are nurse anesthetists, we expected clients from healthcare once we launched our business, especially since we’ve written research articles, textbook chapters, and now books about various aspects of healthcare and wellness. We thought questions would come from our guest posts about bullying among nurses, or the nuances of work culture as we’ve discussed on FreshNP. To our surprise, the same two themes orbit work issues in the hospital OR, at McDonald’s, and in the cubicles with a pointy-haired boss: relationships and finances.
As much as we stress leaving work at work and home at home, the two overlap substantially. If they desperately need the money, employees will accept far more abuse at work than someone already ambivalent about their job. Perceived lack of support from a spouse or loved one amplifies unintentional slights at work to full-blown rejection. Self-care and wellness techniques help realign our perceptions closer to reality, limiting miscommunication and awkward misunderstandings. Work is inherently awkward, like any other activity where at least one party is only present because they are being paid to do so (think Uber, Airbnb, or that boy you bought pizza at lunch every Friday for a month so he’d go to the Sadie Hawkins dance with you).
For a good time every time, observe other people’s awkwardness for a minute. That’s what much of How to Succeed in Anesthesia School is about–prospective students and seasoned clinicians quickly mastering social dynamics so they can concentrate on the next step on their career path. The quirky humor and irreverent satire may seem at odds with what BEHAVE Wellness stands for, but learning should be hilarious whenever possible. We’ve learned that a stiff, walk-on-eggshells work environment always has more problems than a cheerful place with blundering, authentic goofballs. Besides:
We should really eat before writing these posts. Subscribe on the right with your email address, and you’ll get these witty compliments every time we write a new post. So, besides new information on debt and investing wisely (but not necessarily conservatively–see our Bitcoin post) and balancing a successful career as a caregiver with satisfying, deep relationships, what else does the book teach? Topics include selecting a healthcare specialty, interviewing well, and the best ways to transform theoretical knowledge into something practical for patients. Lest it get too annoying and upbeat, one of the chapters is titled “Picking up the Charred Remains after you Crash and Burn”, not too dissimilar from the section “Cutting your Losses” in the relationships chapter. Best of all, this project comes with a free audiobook version narrated by the author. For the three Americans who don’t have Amazon to buy a paperback or Kindle version, purchase a similar Nook/iBook/PDF here:
We’re not really going to talk about the title–it’s too much of a stretch from workplace bullying to competing cryptocurrencies. After all, you know a money maker has peaked when a blog like ours talks about it. We think the attraction to digital currencies on a blockchain is that the technology allows observable math algorithms to fairly solve problems and logistics that currently require subjective (or corrupt), expensive bureaucracy. A lot of the messages we’ve received lately ask questions like, “Can I invest in Bitcoin and make enough money to leave this lousy job,” and, “Is it possible to avoid all this student loan debt by buying cryptocurrencies?” One of our founders made a video today specifically addressing the second question:
Perhaps Bitcoin isn’t much of a segue from our usual topics–financial freedom allows you to walk away from a bad company, or at least make a job’s hourly rate only one factor out of many. Let’s say you’re comfortable in bed, watching a new show on Netflix, and it’s boring. No big deal, right? You reach for the remote–and realize it’s across the room. Trapped. Now this is serious. It’s the same with your career. A tolerable work culture becomes much less so if no other options exist.
There is no better way to make other people rich (like the state lotto) than to lurch desperately into a investment. Although we briefly considered a wellness blockchain, BEHAVE Wellness has no official or unofficial affiliation with any crypto currency or company. This sort of disclaimer is standard for discussions about stocks but virtually non-existent in the haphazard world of the blockchain, with new coins to tackle real and imagined problems appearing quicker than a child can spend tokens at Chuck E Cheese.
Especially for students, the key is not diversification beyond the four coins offered on Coinbase in exchange for American dollars, but simplification despite limited investment dollars. The technology is evolving so quickly that last month’s recommendations are already dated and obsolete. To store value and increase exponentially once hype fades, a coin needs real purpose and scarcity–Stellar and Ripple are compelling platforms with clear uses, but the presence of billions of coins can impact potential returns in the short term. We’ll do our best to answer specific questions in the comments (the comment link is next to the tags below the post title), but remember that we can have a rational conversation about finance, or we can discuss Bitcoin.
We were invited to talk about bullying in healthcare by our good friend and author, Kati Kleber. Increasingly, we’ve all been asked to address this by nursing students feeling powerless in the classroom and in clinical settings. Similar to interns and graduate students, the common thread is continual evaluation by others higher on the totem pole–who themselves may be bullied by their superiors. We incorporated much of the current literature in our discussion on FreshRN, and some of it is surprising (and vicious).
So are we saying that not every nurse is as virtuous as the saintly one above? Bullying is surprisingly common in helping professions, even in churches. The top five bullying behaviors nursing students experience are nonverbal innuendos, verbal affront, undermining actions, withholding information, and sabotage. As opposed to being shoved on the playground, this sometimes requires perception and awareness of the social environment to even realize it’s happening. That’s why bullying is so common and devastating in learning environments. From a personal standpoint, several of us can remember times where we had to choose between learning 100% of the knowledge we needed for the day or being charming and socially adroit, because both required total concentration.
One reason that toxic learning environments are so consuming is the concept of a “snowflake”–an overly sensitive, dogmatic person, as opposed to six sided crystalline ice precipitation. It’s important to consider how other students are being treated, and how distant reality may be from our perceptions of being bullied. This is where others come in, although Behave Wellness would be better suited for that than a college ombudsperson (what do they do anyway?) or hospital HR department. Not that anyone’s life has been changed through a blog comment, but tell us your story below and we will do our best to help. Any professionals you use should be familiar with bullying so they can give you wise and relevant advice.